You’re 90% Not You
// there’s a number that stops people when they hear it
// >90% of your daily behavior
// is subconscious
// not influenced by the subconscious
// not informed by it
// generated by it — without your conscious participation
// most people hear this and nod
// then go back to trying to change themselves
// using the 10% they have access to
// the math doesn’t work in your favor
// and yet
// every book
// every course
// every coaching program
// operates almost entirely within that 10%
Where the 90% Comes From
// the programs running your automatic behavior weren’t random
// they were installed at specific moments
// some – when where too young to remember
// even more – you inherited
// when your nervous system
// was still building its model
// of how the world works
// at those moments
// you didn’t analyze
// what was happening
// and choose a response
// you absorbed it
// you filed it
// you ran it
// that response became a program
// the program runs
// when conditions resemble the original situation
// regardless of whether those conditions
// are actually the same
// a pattern that started in one area of life
// may show up across other sphere
// money
// relationships
// career
// health
// same root
// different screens
The Epigenetics Problem
// it gets more complicated
// research in behavioral epigenetics has shown
// behavioral tendencies can be passed across generations
// through gene expression, not just environment
// what that means in plain terms
// some of the programs running you
// weren’t installed in your lifetime
// they were inherited
// you’re carrying patterns
// that solved problems your grandparents faced
// those patterns are still running
// in a completely different context
// on your decisions
// today
// trying to change an inherited program using willpower
// is like trying to update your grandmother’s handwriting
// by writing more carefully
// the source isn’t your hand
// the source isn’t even your memory
Why Knowing Better Doesn’t Help
// the most frustrating version of this
// is when you know exactly what you’re doing
// you can see the pattern
// you can name it
// you can predict it
// and you still do it
// this is not a motivation problem
// this is what it feels like
// when conscious understanding
// runs into a program operating at a deeper level
// the program doesn’t care that you understand it
// understanding happens at the screen level
// programs run at the code level
// clicking buttons on the screen
// doesn’t change what the operating system does
The Old You Still Gets a Vote
// the old programs don’t disappear when you grow
// they don’t retire when they’re no longer useful
// the version of you that installed a particular response pattern
// is still voting on your decisions today
// every time conditions resemble the original moment
// that old version wakes up and runs its routine
// personal growth doesn’t silence those old votes
// it just adds new ones
// and often — the old votes are louder
// because they’ve been running longer
// they’re more practiced
What Changes the Equation
// changing the ratio isn’t about suppressing the 90%
// it’s about going to the specific programs running against you
// and dissolving them at the level where they actually live
// not by understanding them
// not by replacing them with better beliefs
// by accessing the original moment that installed them
// and reprocessing it
// so the situation that created the program
// no longer generates the same response
// this is what root-level work does
// it doesn’t work at the level of behavior
// that’s downstream
// it doesn’t work at the level of belief
// that’s upstream of behavior
// but downstream of the program
// it works at the causal level
// the source
// removing 1-3 counterproductive programs
// is often enough
// to produce changes across multiple areas of life simultaneously
// because the same root was feeding all of them
// but don’t expect talk therapy
// we identify the exact program
// running underneath the pattern
// usually its 1 session to find that script
// not six months of exploring feelings
// and 1–3 sessions to change the script
// plus 2-6 weeks of real-life DIY integration
// via following precise integration plan
// you get from me
// to make that change stick
// A.B.